So far the UK shows no signs of following suit. The Home Office says there are “no plans” to consider a gender neutral symbol on passports or birth certificates or for the latter to be left blank until a later date. There is one lone parliamentary voice calling for change – Lord Stevenson, who was born with hypospadias, in which the urinary opening is not in the usual location, a condition affecting some 1 in 300 boys (and some girls, but less noticeably and obviously), and a figure that, according to Great Ormond Street Hospital, is increasing for reasons not yet understood.
While hypospadias is often not included under the intersex umbrella of conditions (although many who have it do identify as intersex), Lord Stevenson understands only too well the shame and stigma that come from being differently formed. “There are resonances between my condition and intersex variations. For my whole adolescence and early adulthood I had to conceal my difference, the fact I wasn’t the same as others. And it wasn’t until I was in my thirties I realised I was not alone, that there were others like me and they also had difficulty forming relationships, doing normal things like getting undressed in a public changing room in case they are exposed. There are a lot more people around with intersex conditions than people realise – and there is a role for legislation. For instance, in debating the same-sex marriage bill, there wasn’t a space for those yet to declare which sex they wish to be considered. It’s also wrong that we operate on babies first and consider how that operation has affected them later. What sort of normality is it when a surgeon ‘corrects’ a penis because he has some sort of idea of what a perfect penis looks like? We are feeding intersex teens hormones and subjecting them to constant surgery. It’s terrible. I’ve had letters with stories that have made me literally weep at what intersex people have been through.”
This saddens Intersex UK co-founder Dawn Vago, who, like Greenberry, has fought hard to be proud of who she is. Vago, 35, lives in Warrington with her husband of ten years and works as a programme director and singer. She has complete androgen insensitivity syndrome, which meant that although she was born with apparently typical-looking female genitalia, she lacked the internal reproductive system of fallopian tubes, a womb and ovaries, and had internal testes. “I was told from a very early age I was ‘different’. My parents agreed to my testes being removed because they were told that, if they didn’t, I would develop cancer. This isn’t true – the risk of cancer is lower than other female cancers in typical bodies, and with check-ups my body would in all likelihood have remained healthy. What we also weren’t told was if they had left my testes inside me the testosterone would later convert to oestrogen. Poor medical advice led to osteoporosis and 11 broken bones due to the mismanagement of synthetic hormones I was given.”
Vago was told no one else in the country had anything like this. “There were no support groups; there was no one that I could identify with. More importantly, there was no one for my parents to speak to.
“I was very lucky – my parents were full of love, openness, understanding and care. Unfortunately, I didn’t receive the same care and attention from the medical profession, who held quite a bit back. I think the low point was when I was in my early teens and told my doctor, with elation, that I had a crush on a boy who liked me – I wanted to tell everyone. But she very quickly and nervously looked to another doctor and I was escorted into another room, where I was then put onto the table. Something was inserted into me and I was told this would have to be done on a regular basis as I had a shallow vagina. This affected me greatly – emotionally and intimately. It wasn’t something I wanted to have done to me at the age of 14.
“This wasn’t the first devastating moment I’d experienced with the medical profession. My parents had previously been told, ‘No man will ever love her,’ and instructed to push me into a career. Even though I’m married to the most amazing man, those words still circle around my head and I have to consciously shake them away.”
ago had some dark times but found support in her early twenties. “When I met other people like myself and I realised how many of us there are, it blew my mind. I was so happy, so, so unbelievably happy, but then that turned to anger. Why was I not told? Why had that been kept from me? Why were my parents not told this? Why did I grow up in a world of shadow and shame? It shouldn’t have been like that and that’s why I’m standing tall now.”
However, there are some signs of intersex issues filtering into mainstream life in the same way that trans issues did before Caitlyn Jenner’s celebrity transition brought them into the limelight. An MTV teen show, Faking It, features a character who happens to be intersex and the 2015 Rainbow List of the 101 most influential LGBTI personalities in Britain, published last month, included Vago and Greenberry at No 5, along with stand-up comic and fellow intersex advocate Sarah Graham at No 2. Lady Colin Campbell, who was born intersex, brought up as a boy named George and forced by her parents to have hormone therapy to keep her “male” as a teenager, made headlines recently in I’m a Celebrity ... Get Me Out of Here!. President Obama notably hosted several prominent US intersex activists at the White House at the end of November to coincide with the US premiere of Eddie Redmayne’s Oscar-tipped The Danish Girl(although intersex advocates are keen to emphasise the distinction between transgender and intersex issues).
A few young intersex adults in the US have banded together to create the hashtag Intersexy. One of them, Emily Quinn, has also acted as an adviser to the producers of Faking It, and has now started a YouTube channel, Intersexperiences, to speak frankly – and at times very humorously – about life as an intersex person. “I think I’m part of a new wave,” she says. “It was a tough decision to put myself out there as openly intersex, but at the same time it was quite simple. If it helps anyone not be operated on without consent or feel less alone and confused, it’s 100 per cent worth it. I was expecting a lot more abuse than I received and most people have been pretty wonderful. I think ‘intersexy’ is a great word for us to show the world that intersex people’s bodies are sexy, too.”
Since 2006 the NHS guidance has been that when an intersex baby is born, a whole team of experts should be brought in to support the parents medically and emotionally. The official policy is that there should be no rush or pressure to assign a newborn to either sex while the parents are helped to understand the complexities of their individual child’s case, and that surgery is not the default option.
But the whole issue of intersex babies and children appears to be highly controversial. Finding someone to talk officially about it is difficult, even off the record. One willing to talk openly is Professor Sarah Creighton, who counselled Suz Temko and is one of the leading specialists pushing for change in the treatment of intersex babies and young children. She co-wrote an excoriating (by medical standards) paper in The BMJ in late September called Parental Choice on Normalising Cosmetic Genital Surgery. In it she made it clear the 2006 official NHS “no surgery” guidelines were being treated with the same respect a toddler affords the idea of table manners.
According to Creighton, “Paediatricians have previously stated that the determining factor in deciding to raise a child as a boy is ‘the size of the phallus’. Newborn penile size charts were used in the Sixties and any child with a penis of stretched length less than 2.5cm was likely to be assigned female regardless of the underlying diagnosis. Feminising genital surgery usually followed. Genital assignment has become less simplistic but normalising surgery remains common.” She goes on to say that “the rate of female assigned and surgically feminised children who reassign as male” later in life is “of concern”, and that, “An additional, non-surgical care protocol is required to enable parents to cope with what may feel like an insurmountable pressure to appear normal.”
“In the UK,” she notes, “genital surgery for children with atypical genitalia remains part of standard medical care,” adding, “Given the increasingly adversarial atmosphere in this field, more of the same is not an option.”
Holly Greenberry points to the case of separated parents Michelle and Kyle, in the news this month, who are in dispute as to whether their intersex son, Aubrey, who had feminising surgery but now wishes to be a boy, should be raised male or female. “This poor child has lost his genitals – these should be his for life. Why are doctors ignoring these mistakes? My own experience of offering support to parents on the front line is that ‘non-surgical’ alternatives simply aren’t what’s happening. I’ve sat with mums with tears rolling down their faces, trying to deal with what they and their child are facing from the medical profession. There is still a benchmark cut-off point where there’s an atypicality of genitalia – and scalpels are seen as the answer.”
She argues that there is not a single record of any infant having died as a direct result of having either a clitoris larger than 9cm or a penis smaller than 2.4cm. “Surgery is intersex genital mutilation, IGM, and no different from FGM. Scalpels don’t sculpt gender; they sever futures.”
But Dr Joe Brierley, chair of the ethics and law advisory committee at the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health, argues that it is often parents who are driving gender assignments.
“Sometimes it’s the child’s family who say, ‘We don’t want them going to school looking like that – what will happen in the changing rooms?’ They are the ones suggesting ‘normalising’ surgery, despite medical teams urging them to hold off, hence the need for expert multi-disciplinary support. As far as I know, this type of surgery no longer happens in infants, though I am unaware of any UK or international register of procedures.”
Ieuan Hughes, a paediatrics professor at the University of Cambridge, offers a different perspective. “Is it really desirable, and indeed practical, to ignore the accepted practice of mankind’s binary sex and raise an infant born with indeterminate sex, aka intersex, as a third sex?” he argues. “How would the parents of such an infant cope with that idea? To my knowledge, nobody in the UK has followed that practice and it certainly is not recommended by specialist clinics that care for families who find themselves in this challenging situation. It is recommended that intersex infants should be gender assigned (female or male), although the decision may take a number of weeks pending the results of investigations, some of which may be complex. But delaying an assignment so that the sex remains indeterminate until the child has sufficient cognitive development to engage in the decision-making is not on the agenda. What is paramount is the importance of teamwork among professionals when supporting a family with an intersex child.”
In October, Greenberry, Vago and Temko went to Plymouth University to give a talk to the medical students and staff. A no-holds-barred Q&A session took place afterwards. “Basically, the students’ jaws dropped,” says Greenberry. “They couldn’t believe we’d stood everything they thought they knew about biological sex and gender and ‘abnormalities’ on its head.”
Dr Siobhan Moyes, the lead for anatomy teaching at the university, says she has changed the way she lectures as a result.
“The students were incredibly receptive and it was an epiphany for me, a major shift in my mentality. I’ve stopped talking about ‘abnormalities’ and talk about ‘differences’. I now tell students it’s perfectly normal to have different genitalia, different courses of nerves or different-sized sex organs. Everyone is unique. I could probably count on a very small abacus the number of completely average people in the population.”
Intersex UK now plans to hold further talks with other medical schools to teach the next generation of doctors that there are many healthy, natural shades between pink and blue. “Something is changing,” says Temko, who now has a policy of being open about herself with work colleagues, boyfriends and friends, and also blogs about all things intersex at XYSuZ. “Gender fluidity, more open attitudes and open minds – the conversation has changed so much, and the idea that ‘no body is shameful’ actually seems to be becoming real. It’s exciting.”